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Star Word Update

Reconciliation: /ˌrekənˌsilēˈāSH(ə)n/                              

noun   1. The restoration of friendly relations


Reconciliation. That’s the star word I drew this year. It confused me. I don’t think there is anyone, anywhere, with whom I feel unreconciled. Yet reconciliation is the gift of the Holy Spirit for me this year. I chewed on this for a long time, wondering what this word, this star could be asking of me in 2023.


Then one day it just hit me. The person I need to reconcile with is ME. That is my God-given project for this year. I need to lighten up on me. I need to give myself a little grace.


That’s … um … not the gift I expected. But it is the gift I need. It is the challenge I need.


There are lots of ways that this word could play out in my life, but one centerpiece has emerged so far, and I have posted it under a magnet on my fridge:



This year – because the Holy Spirit commands it – I am resolved to stop holding myself to standards that don’t make sense anymore for someone my age. I don’t have to look like I did when I was 50. I don’t have to be able to run (though I bless those people my age who can). I don’t have to be able to shovel snow without rest breaks. I can also let myself be a little slower than I used to be. I can do just one thing at a time, maybe for the first time in my life.

This month I will be 73 years old. Hallelujah! What a blessing! My task this year is to embrace this stage of my life and be grateful for it. To have reasonable expectations for myself. To restore friendly relations with this person I have grown to be. That is my birthday gift from the Holy Spirit. Thanks be to God!


Some of you have also been thinking about your own star words for 2023. I invite you to share what you have learned in future issues of this newsletter. The gifts of the Spirit are all around us!

Pastor Cathy

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